February 28, 2013

Excuses, Excuses

Excuses, Excuses

It seems like the older I get and the longer I engage in an activity, the more excuses I can find to not do the activity.

This morning it was cold. If you are not a native Californian, please feel free to laugh now. I am sure it was not actually less than 50 degrees outside. But as I contemplated getting dressed for a run…well…I did feel cold.

There can always be something in the way. Cold, Tired. Sick. Stressed. Too much work. Too much laundry. Too many meetings. My life, wonderful as it is, is full of things, big and small, that can stand in the way of a run. Or sleep. Or 10 minutes to just sit and be quiet.

So this morning, I thought I should have a list. It’s so very easy for my brain to generate an excuse, I should have list of all the reasons why I want to run to counter the excuses. I wrote down a whole bunch of things (mind you, I was doing this in lieu of running…).


  • It’s good for me
  • It reduces my stress
  • It gives me time to think
  • It helps me relax
  • I sleep better
  • I am happier with my body

The real list is longer.

When I stopped – here is what I noticed. It all really comes down to one thing. I run for me. It is one (maybe the only) purely selfish thing I do to take care of myself. And for some reason, even now – after all these years of living and as smart as I like to think I am – it’s is so easy to set aside the things I do to take care of myself. The excuses themselves are really are not the point. Fundamentally, if my brain can still place “it’s too cold” (when, seriously, it isn’t) above “this really makes me feel good and makes me a better person” then I have a bigger problem.

Maybe excuses are what we do to justify not taking care of ourselves.

I want to take care of myself. I fundamentally believe that when I do I am a better doctor, mother, friend – I am a better person in a hundred ways. I try to make my life an example for others. Yet, still, I struggle with this.

This morning I wrote a list and complained about the cold instead of running. I will run later today. I want to, I need to – frankly I think I deserve it.

What are you making excuses for today? Why?

Can you stop?

I am trying.






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  1. Dawn
    February 28, 2013 at 6:27 pm #

    I am ALWAYS thinking of reasons to put off my run, (I actually get quite a lot done that way…haha!) but after I force myself to get out/go on the treadill I ALWAYS wonder why I procrastinated (oooh big word) in the first place, I ALWAYS feel so much better, and have discovered that the more I put off a run the more I see it is what my body/brain needs most!! 🙂 (I am going to get on the t/m right now!!!)

    • Jacqueline Jacques
      February 28, 2013 at 8:27 pm #

      What I have been trying to figure out is how do I transform the running list of “negative” excuses in my head into positive ones. I think I should be saying “I can’t fold laundry right now, I have to run” rather than the other way around…but that’s not what my brain does. I definitely need to run (ok, most of the time) more than I need to fold shirts and socks!

      • Dawn
        February 28, 2013 at 10:43 pm #

        I know what you mean, I think writing them down is a good idea, maybe post notes around with all the positive reasons for running, I guess it will take a while to change the habit of negative thinking but I am going to try it, and then, if I STILL don’t feel like starting, well, I think I just need to start…and not think about it! lol! ‘Don’t think, just DO!’ 🙂

  2. nancy
    March 1, 2013 at 5:05 pm #

    I can so relate to this…not the running part, as I do not do that, but the excuses part and not taking time out for ME. I will try to let this inspire me to take that time so that I can be a better and healthier wife, mom, grandma, etc….thank you! I am so proud of all that you do WITHOUT EXCUSES..you are amazing everyday. I love you and am so proud of you, mom